Why some babies are easier and some are more difficult?
When a baby is born, she/he is born with different attributes, qualities, abilities, talents, and opportunities. The temperament of the baby depends on several factors such as parents’ and generation past’s gins, mother’s psychological states at the time of pregnancy, and some unknown factors. The Temperament of each baby is different. The creation of the soul is, in fact, the raw material given to each child, with the experience of the world, she/he can make her/himself. In this building, parents have a primary role. The temperament is like building materials that are given to the parents and ask them to build a house with your own desire.
They may build a solid palace or an unstable cottage.
Temperament is important, but the final result (character) is not entirely relevant to the temperament. The child’s mood, temperament, or the nature of the child will overcome the child up to one year, and the effect is lost until the age of 3 or 4 unless it gets worse with the parent’s reaction to that temperament. What is emerging as the end result completes at the age of 25 and it is called “personality”. Usually in the first three years of life is the most important stage of personality formation, and this is very much dependent on parents.
Types of temperament can usually be identified only in the early years and can not be changed, but knowing this fact, could help parents not to compare their children with others, and eventually, those differences do not cause stress.
The difference in temperament makes some babies need more attention and effort, and others are more comfortable kids. Factors that differentiate the mood of children can be divided into nine categories:
1- Child Activity Level,
Some babies are energetic and have a high level of physical activity. They sleep less than other babies and after a short sleep, they are quite lively. In contrast, some children are less active and more relaxed. Some children sleep 20 hours, but some have 15 hours.
From 1 to 6, measure your baby’s energy and activity levels:
2- Attention and Distractibility Level,
Some children when they are busy doing something They put all their energy and focus on it. Like milking. But some children distract with the slightest noise stop from eating.
3. The Sensitivity Level,
Some babies react to any problem with a sharp reaction. That is when the circumstances are in the opposite of their desire to deal with that case, while some of them do not react quickly.
The rhythm or predictable recurrence of daily activities or routines (such as eating, hunger, becoming tired, sleeping). Many newborns sleep at a certain hour and eat at a certain hour, and their waking hours are on the clock, as well as the urine and feces amount and regulatory, which is predictable and, if necessary, making the prevention very easy. Some, on the contrary, are so chaotic that they are having pain in the parents.
How your child adjusts to new situations; length of time needed to accept changes in plan or routine. A number of babies should respond to any slight change quickly, while some do not care about the cold and warmth of the food or the change in the type of clothing or the color and size of the garment.
6 – Approach and Withdrawal,
Many babies are not endured in contact with strangers or reluctantly approaching others. The child communicates with different degrees with people around them and has different situations when it comes to approach and withdrawal. That’s why some kids may not react when parents leave them with others and others are in trouble.
The amount of energy your child puts into responses.
Some kids are overly responsive and may drain parent resources due to his or her intense feeling level. However, some kids quickly adapt themselves to the new environment, they agree to accept others, and react mildly. They still feel all these emotions but do not exhibit such highs and lows in their responses. Low intensity is easier to deal with.
Your child’s ability to stick with a task in spite of distractions, interruptions, or frustration.
High persistence children do not easily relish their desires, they even violate one’s will and even reject even better things. However, The child with low persistence may have difficulty in play because of a tendency to become irritated or annoyed when interrupted or when a task becomes difficult. They give up easily or ask for help, rather than try things independently, and it can lead to incomplete tasks or difficulty staying focused.
as soon as they encounter an obstacle to their beliefs, they accept something else and accept victory and happiness in place of what they want.
Mood fluctuations. We all are up and down, but some are roaring like the seas. That is, those who disrupt the smallest intolerance of them. While all children display a variety of emotions and reactions, from cheerful to glum, affectionate to grumpy, each child is predisposed toward a generally positive or negative mood. For example, if they are not a good part of the food, they are unhappy and see the half-empty glass. While they are another group that accepts general changes. They are usually more satisfied, more happy and grateful.
Your child’s general tendency toward a happy or unhappy demeanor. A more negative child may have difficulty being accepted by family, it can be tough for caregivers to distinguish real problems from the child’s typical mood. A child who always seems to be in a good mood fits in more easily but may not be dealing honestly with all the experiences in her life.
How to evaluate the results:
In each question, specify your child’s number and add them together.
My baby’s Temperament Number in the first two years of life ____________
– If it is between 0 and 20, your child is an easy child in the first two years of life and needless work
-If his or her number is between 20 and 35 he is in the middle, 70 present of babies are in this category. Babies in this category are not easy and not hard.
-If you rated your baby 35 and 54, parents need quite more effort. Your baby needs you to be more patient and repeat tasks more in raising their children.
It goes without saying that the difference in baby temperaments do not have any reflection on the child’s behavior and character in the future. Unless, with the mistake of parents, those differences as a means of exacerbating that behavior becomes permanent.
Based on Temperament and Development, by A. Thomas and S. Chess, published in 1977 by Brunner/Mazel, New York.)